Mastering object pronouns in English: A complete guide

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This cake is for him! Learn how object pronouns like "him," "us," and "them" receive the action in a sentence.
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“This cake is for you.”

When you’re building a sentence in English, object pronouns represent the person or thing that receives an action. Unlike subject pronouns (the “doers”), object pronouns are the “receivers.” Using them correctly prevents your writing from sounding repetitive and ensures your grammar is polished.

What is an object pronoun?

An object pronoun is a type of personal pronoun that replaces a noun that receives the action of a verb or follows a preposition. In the sentence “Sarah called me,” the word “me” is the object pronoun because I am the one receiving the call.

Complete list of object pronouns with examples

English uses specific object pronouns based on whether the person is singular, plural, or part of a group.

PersonSingularPlural
First personMeUs
Second personYouYou
Third personHim, Her, ItThem

1. Me (First person singular)

Used when the speaker is receiving the action.

  • Example: “Can you help me with this heavy box?”

2. You (Second person singular/plural)

Used for the person or group being spoken to. “You” is unique because it looks the same as a subject pronoun.

  • Example: “I will call you as soon as the meeting ends.”

3. Him, her, it (Third person singular)

Used for people (masculine/feminine) or inanimate objects and animals.

  • Him: “I gave the last slice of pizza to him.”
  • Her: “The manager wants to speak with her.”
  • It: “I found the key and put it in my pocket.”

4. Us (First person plural)

Used when the speaker is part of a group receiving the action.

  • Example: “Our neighbors invited us to their backyard barbecue.”

5. Them (Third person plural)

Used for a group of people or things.

  • Example: “The kids are at the park; please go get them.”

6. Whom (Interrogative or relative)

While “who” is for subjects, whom is the formal object form.

  • Example: “Whom should I contact regarding the refund?”

Object pronouns after prepositions

A common rule that trips up writers is the use of pronouns after prepositions (words like to, for, with, at, by, from). In these cases, you must always use an object pronoun.

  • Correct: “This gift is for him.” (Not “for he”)
  • Correct: “Come sit with us.” (Not “with we”)

Frequently asked questions about object pronouns

Because “between” is a preposition, it must be followed by object pronouns. Therefore, “between you and me” is the only correct form.

  • Why the confusion? Many people were corrected as children for saying “Me and Sarah went…” and now mistakenly think “and I” is always more “polite” or “correct.” This is called hypercorrection.

Both are technically acceptable, but they follow different rules:

  • Informal: “Taller than me.” (Here, “than” acts as a preposition).
  • Formal: “Taller than I.” (Here, “than” is a conjunction, and the verb “am” is hidden at the end: Taller than I am).
  • Pro-tip: If you want to sound natural, use me. If you are writing a formal academic paper, use I.

In modern English, whom (the object pronoun) is slowly disappearing from casual speech. Most native speakers use “Who” for everything.

  • The Trick: If you can answer the question with “him,” use whom. If you answer with “he,” use who.
    • Whom did you see? (I saw him).
    • Who saw you? (He saw me).

Strictly speaking, “It is I” is the formal grammatical standard because “to be” is a linking verb. However, saying “It is I” in a text message or a phone call sounds incredibly stuffy.

  • Casual: “It’s me.”
  • Formal: “It is I.”
  • Verdict: Unless you are writing for a very traditional professor, “It’s me” is the standard for 2026.

You will hear this everywhere in casual conversation (“Me and my friend went to the movies”). However, for professional writing, it is still considered a mistake.

  • Incorrect: Me and my friend went…
  • Correct: My friend and I went…
  • Rule of thumb: Always put the other person first, and use the subject pronoun I when you are the one doing the action.

You likely see this in social media bios or email signatures. Listing both the subject pronoun (He) and the object pronoun (Him) has become the universal way to share gender identity. It helps clarify that the words are intentional pronouns rather than a typo in the text.

Conclusion: Putting it all together

Using object pronouns correctly is one of the fastest ways to improve your English fluency. By focusing on who is receiving the action—and remembering the preposition rule—you can avoid the most common grammar traps.

Join the conversation: What’s your biggest grammar hurdle?

Do you still struggle with “who vs. whom”? Or is there a different pronoun rule that always confuses you?

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